We often come across ego-clashing in our lives; in the workplace, in our families, with peers or even passing strangers in the street!
Ego-clashes can be nasty and leave us feeling wounded or angry, and the atmosphere is made uncomfortable… even for the people who are not involved…
There are many reasons for ego-clashes, including conflicting personalities, jealousy or communication problems. Egos might also surface when fear, insecurity or lack of trust. Fundamentally, we are an animal species and conflict will occur. If our ego wins, we can enjoy feelings of euphoria and superiority. However, this is often at the expenses of others feeling demoralised, tense and stressed.
The bottom line is; our ego is our self-image, and also a great con artist. It knows us so well that it can use whatever tools it wishes to make us succumb to what it wants us to believe. This includes logic, false confidence and even sweet-talk to get us trapped.
The ego will never die, but we can teach ourselves to live in harmony with it.
Tips to Master Our Ego:
1. Treat It As Another Person: give your ego an image and a personality and imagine this person when your ego arises – this can help you to see your ego as separate from yourself and disagree with what it says. Maybe your ego is a six year old boy, or a teenage girl – you decide!
2. Reality vs Illusion: The ego thrives on illusion that we do not have enough good things. Focusing on what we do have can bring us back into reality and diminish ego-illusion!
3. Learn to Love: The ego often lives off fear; fear is powerful and fear thrives off fear! Living our days with love and learning to see love helps us to see beauty rather than be frightened or feel threatened. Therefore we do not need our ego to protect us.
We are far more powerful than our egos. We have less fear and more love than it tells us. When it comes to your ego, just tell it “You Are Not The Boss of Me” and focus on what we have, in reality, rather than what we may think we lack.